Brother surprises family with pregnant girlfriend at his sibling's destination wedding: 'He admitted it's... not his baby'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Jan 14, 2025 11:00 AM EST

Family dramas come in all shapes and sizes, but this dude chose the most explosive time to drop his relationship news to his extended family. 

Even the most peace-loving family will have their challenging moments. Disagreements will always happen, and the quickest way to solve them is through good communication. That's the exact opposite of what this person's brother did, though. He showed up with enough drama to cause an entire wedding to be about him!

If your sibling stole the show at your special event, you'd probably be upset, too. A wedding is supposed to show off the new couple's love story as their friends and family celebrate their future together. So if the whole wedding is spent yammering on about what the bride or groom's brother is doing, that would be quite frustrating for the newlyweds. That drama will still be there the next day to talk about, yet that's most likely going to be the main thing people remember from the ceremony. There's only one thing for this person to do: crash the baby's birth to announce their own big accomplishment! 

Next up, this accountant accidentally caused an employee to start spending $40-60 per meal during a work trip to NYC. 

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    "AITAH for saying my brother shouldn’t have brought his pregnant gf to my wedding and for refusing to let my her be in my wedding photos?"

    I got married last weekend. I'm still so p ed off at what my brother did. He took all of the attention off of me and my husband. Normally, I don't feel the need to be the center of attention, but this was my freaking wedding day! I feel like it's all anyone was talking about during the wedding and now it's like the main thing any of them even remember from the entire thing.
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    It was a destination wedding within the US, so nothing crazy. We kept the guest list to our families (immediate and extended), as well as closest friends.
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    My parents paid for our immediate family to arrive about 5 days ahead of time. So, it was my parents, my sister, and I initially, and my brother arriving a few days later.
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    We knew my brother was bringing a date. No big deal. He said he was just bringing a girl from school. He didn't even call her his girlfriend officially.
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    My parents showed up at the airport to pick my brother up and there he was, hand in hand with an obviously pregnant girl that none of us have ever met. My parents were obviously taken aback. My brother greeted them like everything was normal, according to my mom, and my parents didn't really know what to do or say. Then he just said "Surprise!" My poor mom almost fainted and claims my dad yelled have you done?" out "
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    He introduces us to this girl, but doesn't clarify if she's his girlfriend and doesn't give us much info at all really. It was very weird. It was obvious that she was uncomfortable. She's said she wasn't feeling well and needed to go lay down after the flight. So, at dinner it was just our
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    family as she was resting. We were all awkwardly sitting around the table eating dinner, barely saying a word. My mom finally says "(brother's name), is that your baby?" By then we all assumed it was, but my mom needed confirmation. The lack of any real explanation or details from him up until then was just odd.
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    He admitted it's technically not his baby, but he's in love with her and intends on being a father to the baby anyway. The actual father isn't involved and doesn't want to be, and if they get married then he can adopt the baby so he'll legally be the father. She's living with him and none of us knew this either. He's been her main support person throughout the entire thing (she's 28 weeks,
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    well 29 now since this was over a week ago). I think this was worse than what we had all assumed. So in love with her that he's going to take on the responsibility of her child AND marry her, yet we've never even heard of her? He said he has mentioned her quite a few times. Well, maybe he's mentioned her name in passing (not to me, maybe to my parents), but never said she was his girlfriend or pregnant. None
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    of us understand. He's 21, about to graduate college, planning to enter law school next, and he's an attractive guy. Why would he do this? My parents, especially my mom, were stressing out about it all weekend long throughout my entire wedding weekend. It was like my wedding became an after thought. All my parents could talk about was how to make my brother change his mind about this girl.
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    Then, when the wedding photographer was taking family pictures, he wanted her in them! That's was really the breaking point for me. She isn't family. None of us knew about their relationship, and we met her 2 days prior. She shouldn't be in our official family pictures from my wedding. It's like forget the bride and groom, look at random heavily woman hitching herself to my brother. No, I told him no. I
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    refused to let her be in the photos. My mom made me allow her to be in one picture, but said we don't have to buy that one or put it in display anywhere. It just made my blod boil!
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    Anyway, I don't think he should have brought her. There was no reason to bring her to my wedding, especially without warning. I mean, it's all my side of the family could talk about and he was reticent to even correct them about it not being his baby.
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    He said that's because it was awkward for her to have to explain the full scenario to everyone, so he just let people think what they wanted. Because he wouldn't at least say something, everyone was gossiping and wondering about it the whole time.
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    I'm posting this because I'm upset that several friends and even my own mom are telling me I'm overreacting and just need to accept it. When I told a group of my co-workers about it after the fact (they weren't at the wedding), they agreed with me and thought what my brother did was absolutely insane and r de.
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    This person is probably correct...

    Jacintaleishman I think he knew in a wedding setting that attention would be divided, your wedding was his meat shield.
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    The brother was totally counting on the family members around him shielding him from any responsibility. Maybe he figured that with all of those extra people around, he would get as big of a scolding as if he was just alone with Mom and Dad. 

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    Rinnme NTA. What he did was an AH move, though he probably didn't think it through enough to realize all the implications of his actions. He absolutely shouldn't have dropped that bomb at your wedding or any wedding.
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    Far_Possession_9... NTA! It's your wedding, and you deserve to have the focus be on you and your partner. Your brother blindsiding the family with his relationship and not clarifying anything before the wedding was inconsiderate. It's
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    understandable that you wouldn't want someone in your wedding photos that you barely know and who wasn't even part of the planning. He should have communicated better, and your feelings are valid. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for wanting your day to be about you!
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    Just imagine what the baby shower will be like!

    FilmPuzzleheaded... i mean, plot twist of the year right here. your wedding had more drama than a netflix series. maybe they should've sent a spoiler alert first!
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    CapriciousArach You are NTA. Not only was your brother and AH to you and your husband on your wedding day, he was also potentially an AH to his gf. Did she know that none of you had no idea she existed? Imagine meeting your bf's family for the first time and they didn't even know you existed.
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